Apprecate That Special Someone

LOVE is appreciating and being thankful everyday for the person you have, and treating them with care and thoughtfulness. Love is not waiting until you lose that person to know this.
Love is remembering the power of those three words, I love you, I love you, I love you.
Love is making decisions for “we”. It’s having the forethought and consideration to know that anything that is going on with you, any problem, any success – is also happening to your partner.
Love is nourishing your body and making your health a priority. Because when you’re sick, it’s the people around you that suffer the most. Because you want to be able to maximize your time on earth being a partner, a parent and a friend.
Love is being the best person you can be, every day. It is waking up and making the choice to act with integrity, honesty,.loyalty, and commitment.
It is choosing to act with love over fear, even when you are in pain.It is acting with dignity and grace regardless of how angry or upset you may be.
Love is forgiving.
Love is wanting the best for your partner, even if that sometimes means to let them go…
Love is commitment. Love is a verb, not a noun.
Love is not fleeting; it does not come and go with the feelings and emotions of the day.
Love is not dictated by lust.

What Does Love Mean to You?.


Who Is Your Date?

A girl is attracted to boys. A woman is attracted to men. 

Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up. You can switch the genders in this post and most points would likely still apply. 
If you are a girl (lack independence, are ruled by insecurity, lack self-respect, throw tantrums, have princess syndrome, don’t have strong values or boundaries and can’t hold yourself on your own) then expect that you will attract only boys. However, if you are a woman (independent, ambitious, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a man. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.
  1. A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really. He doesn’t think too much about it, and even if he does, doesn’t exert much effort to get it. A boy is passive, a man is assertive.
  2. A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life) or another purpose or passion.  A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he’s going to hit up on the weekend.
  3. A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.
  4. A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you’re lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.
  5. A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest with his intentions and lets people know where they stand. A boy avoids. He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama or excuses to mask the fact he’s not that into you or a relationship.
  6. A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A boy is always “testing” – he doesn’t fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is in.
  7. A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but is often busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is getting crunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.
  8. A man takes the time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.
  9. A man has integrity. He means what he says, and says what he means. He has follow through and actions his promises. And if he can’t he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn’t follow through.
  10. A man is afraid of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of rejection and acts passive so that his pride and ego won’t ever get too banged up.
Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a man, or a mere boy. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:
11. A boy plays games. A man doesn’t.



When It's Going Wrong

Some relationships are incredibly pernicious. We often develop relationships out of convenience, without
considering the traits necessary to build a successful bond with another person—important traits like unwavering
support and shared trust and loving encouragement.

When a relationship is birthed out of convenience or proximity or chemistry alone, it is bound to fail. We need
more than a person’s physical presence to maintain a meaningful connection, but we routinely keep people around because … well, simply because they’re already around.
It’s easy to develop a connection with a coworker or a schoolmate or someone who’s always there—even when they’re not adding any real value to our lives. And it’s even easier to stay in those relationships. That’s because old relationships are convenient, and starting new relationships is difficult—it requires work. But so does anything worth holding on to.

We’ve all held on to someone who didn’t deserve to be there before. And most of us still have someone in our lives who continually drains us: Someone who doesn’t add value. Someone who isn’t supportive. Someone who takes and takes and takes without giving back to the relationship. Someone who contributes very little and prevents us from growing. Someone who constantly plays the victim.

But victims become victimizers. And these people are dangerous. They keep us from feeling fulfilled. They keep us from living meaningful lives. Over time, these negative relationships become part of our identity—they define us, they become who we are .

Fortunately, this needn’t be the case. Several actions can be taken to rid ourselves of negative relationships.
First, you can attempt to fix the relationship. This is obviously the preferable solution (albeit not always
possible or worthwhile). People change over time, and so do relationships. You can change how your relationship works—be it marriage, friendship, or family—without completely ditching the relationship.

Sit down with the person who’s draining the vitality from your life and explain to them what must change in order for your relationship to work. Explain that you need them to be more supportive, that you need them to participate in your growth, that they are important to you, but the relationship in its current state does not make you happy.
Explain that you’re not attempting to change them as a person; you simply want to change how your relationship

Finally, ask them what they’d like to change about the relationship. Ask them how you can add more value.
Listen attentively, act accordingly.
Or, if you’re unable to change the relationship, you can end it altogether. This is incredibly difficult, but it applies
to any relationship: family, friends, lovers, coworkers, acquaintances. If someone is doing nothing but draining
your life, it’s perfectly acceptable to tell them “This relationship is no longer right for me, so I must end it—I must move on.”
It’s OK to move on. You owe it to yourself to move on.

You owe it to yourself to be happy with the relationships you have. You are in control.
Moving on is sometimes the only way to develop new, empowering relationships. Starting anew, empty-handed and full-hearted , you can build fresher, stronger, more supportive relationships—important relationships that allow you to have fun and be happy and contribute
beyond yourself. These are the meaningful relationships we all need.
It’s also important to do your part. You too must add value to the relationship. Not by buying gifts or commoditizing your love , but by showing up every day
and rigorously exhibiting how much you care, demonstrating your love through consistent actions, continually going out of your way to help the other person grow.
You see, both people must do their part to grow the relationship. Only then will both of you be satisfied with the relationship you’ve built.

Joshua Millburn



Is The Past Important?

Very often when we embark on a new relationship, our curiosity is at its highest. We want to know what our new found love did in the past? Was he a womanizer? Was she sleeping with more than one guy at the same time? Does she have a history of breaking hearts? Was he the type to have sex with a lady and never call her back?
It is understandable that we should be very protective of ourselves when going into relationships and sometimes,
this kind of information can provide us with a basic knowledge of the kind of person we are falling in love with.
But what happens when we just can't let go of what we have discovered? Over the weekend, I decided to go on a movie marathon at the cinemas. I failed because I ended up only watching two movies but the second movie "Think
Like a Man Too" got me thinking. I'd avoided seeing this movie for the longest time because I expected it was just
another bout of mindless comedy that provided poor insight into relationships and made it seem like everything could
just work out after a kiss. One of the couples got me thinking when they arrived in Las Vegas for a party
weekend and the lady started to discover that her partner had embarked on more sexual escapades than he cared to
admit to before he met her. She held on to this the entire weekend, angry, filled with despair and above all unsure of
whether she wanted to go on with the relationship.
Many relationships suffer the same blow; the guy who seems like the only angel on the surface of the earth turns
out to be the biggest womanizer amongst his friends and the lady you believe is the most amazing person on earth has skeletons in her closet. Don't despair; sometimes the past is not a reflection of the true individual. I once read a
quote somewhere that said "A person's past may be true but it is also outdated information". People grow everyday,
and change their lifestyle as they grow older. The important question to ask yourself is "does my partner still fit the bill of this past image?" If the answer is no, move on! Now I know many women will fail when it comes to this question
because over-analysis is our specialty. Try your best to be as objective as possible, and try to focus on what your
partner is doing NOW. Now is what matters most. We all make terrible decisions at some point, and we've all had a little mischief in our past. However, what we are doing now is what really counts.
It is a good thing to know your partner's past, but be willing to see beyond it. Don't let images from the past cloud your
judgement in the present.

By Demi:



14 Things to Appreciate Today

So that’s what I want to reflect on today – quick reminders about the things life is just too short not to appreciate…

1. A peaceful, mindful present.

 – The best way to prepare for the future is to take care of the present. Goodbyes will always hurt a little. Photographs can never replace the act of being there. Memories, good and bad, will sometimes
bring tears. And words can never perfectly describe the feelings they represent. But that’s OK. Pain is real. But so is hope. You have to make peace with your past in order to keep your present and future from becoming hopeless battles.

2. The good in everything. – 

The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.
Train your mind to see the good in everything. Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the breeze through the trees, the small child learning to walk, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the sun on your skin. Live your life to the
fullest potential, and fight for the beauty of each precious moment.

3. Life’s surprises. – 

Notice and cherish life’s surprises. Just
because it’s not what you were expecting, doesn’t mean it’s not everything you’ve been waiting for. So take a deep breath when you’re rejected from something good. It often means you’re being redirected to something better. Be patient. Be positive. 

4. The challenges that strengthen you.

 Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in life. If we were to go through
our life without any obstacles, we would be crippled. We would not be as strong as what we could have been otherwise. So give every opportunity a chance – leave no room for regrets. It takes courage to change and grow and become who you really are. Your struggle is part of your story. And it’s a story worth writing.

5. Being YOU.

 You’re an original, an individual, a
masterpiece. Celebrate it! Don’t let your uniqueness make you shy. Don’t be someone other than the wonder you are.
Everyone has their own dreams, their own struggles, and a different path that makes sense for them. You are YOU for a
reason. Own it.

6. The gifts that are only yours.

 Even when the competition seems fierce, realize that you are only ever competing
against yourself. When you catch yourself comparing yourself to a colleague, neighbor, friend, or famous
personality, stop! There’s no need. You are different, with different strengths – strengths these other people don’t
possess. Take a moment to reflect on all the astounding abilities you have and to be grateful for the gifts that are only yours.

7. Ideas and activities that excite you. –

 Never give up on something that you can’t go a day without thinking about.
When you truly believe in what you’re doing, it shows, and it pays. Success in life is for those who are excited about
where they’re going. So find something that you love – something that gets you so excited you can’t wait to get out
of bed in the morning. That’s what life is all about. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life you are excited about . Don’t let anyone or anything make you forget that.

8. The simple things.

 It’s the simple things in life that are the
most extraordinary. I believe this to be true and have experienced this with my own family. When I think of the
times where we laughed the most or had the most fun, it was when we were doing simple, everyday things like swimming in a pool, taking a long walk, combing a beach for shells, playing a board game, or sharing a delicious meal.

9. The excitement and freedom of vulnerability. – 

Being vulnerable is helpful to both ourselves and others. It makes us bigger in the world – the more open we are, the more there is of us out there. So open up. Allow yourself to feel, to be real and authentic. Tear down any emotional brick walls you have built around yourself and feel every exquisite
emotion, both good and bad. This is life. This is how you welcome new opportunities.

10. Inner beauty. – 

As if you were on fire from within, your
magnificence lives in the lining of your skin. In other words, beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart and
soul. Everything will line up perfectly when knowing and living the truth of who you are on the inside becomes more
important than looking good on the outside. 

11. Giving without expecting anything in return. – 

As a child, I always thought the expression, “It’s better to give than to
receive” was trite and silly. As an adult, I recognize the expression’s value. Having the capacity to give means you possess a mindset of abundance. Having the will to give means you want to make a difference in the world. Having the desire to give means you care. And nothing is more powerful than that.

12. The feeling of doing the right thing. – 

There is plenty of good in this world and it’s worth paying attention to and fighting for. So always seek and do what is right, not what is easy. BE the change you want to see.

13. The act of loving. –

 Love is a lifestyle. Let love win. Love
fearlessly and without limits. No act of love or kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. Love never loses in the
long run. Where you invest your love, you invest your life.

14. Everyone around you for being who they are. – 

If you judge people, you have no time to love them. So pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for who you want them to be. Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves, whether you choose
to be a part of their life or not.

By marc


Short Story: "Anger"

"It is natural for the immature to harm others. Getting angry with them is like resenting a fire for burning." -Shantideva

Once upon a time there was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he should hammer a nail in the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. But gradually, the number of daily nails dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the first day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He proudly told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out, it won't matter how many times you say 'I'm sorry', the wound is still there."

Ask yourself if this situation is actually important enough to spoil your own and other people's mood. Is this problem worth getting upset in a life where death can hit me at any moment?

meditation can be the ultimate cure to completely eliminating anger from your mind. In the beginning, one can do analytical meditations (like this meditation on anger), but also meditation on compassion, love and forgiving reduce anger as well. Ultimately, the realization of emptiness eradicates all delusions like anger.


What Happy Couples Don't Think About

There cannot be a relationship unless there is commitment,
unless there is loyalty, unless there is understanding, patience,
and persistence.”
―Cornel West

If you feel like your relationship is sinking, it’s a perfect time to get rid of some thoughts that may be weighing it down.
Here are nine such thoughts to stop thinking, for your relationship’s sake:

1. “My relationship with him/her will solve all MY problems.”

The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself. If you’re not comfortable enough with your own inner truth when entering a relationship, then you’re not ready for that relationship. Because you are incapable of loving another unless you love yourself, just as you are incapable of teaching someone else something unless you yourself understand it.
Learn to love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of someone else loving you.

2. “We should be the center of each other’s universe.”

A good relationship happens when two people accept each other’s past, support each other’s present, and encourage
each other’s future, without trying to micromanage any of part it. So don’t rush relationships, especially those that feel overbearing. Find a partner, and friends for that matter, who encourage you to grow, who won’t cling to you, who
will let you go out into the world, and trust that you will come back. And always pay them the same courtesy. This is what true love and real friendship is all about, and it’s always worth waiting for.

3. “Good relationships are always easygoing.”

Wrong… Good relationships require work. Good relationships require sacrifice and compromise. True love in
both dating relationships and marriages are not about being there when it’s convenient, these relationships are about
being there when it’s not. Even if you can’t seem to walk that mile in your partner’s shoes, you are still capable of
walking beside them to be a supporter until the day they learn to smile.

4. “I need to do whatever it takes to be loved.”

Sometimes we try to show the world that we are flawless in hopes that we will be loved and accepted more. But we can’t
please the people we love by being someone other than who we are, and we shouldn’t try. Loving someone should not
mean losing YOU. True love empowers you, it doesn’t erase you.
The beauty of us lies in our vulnerability, our sincerity, our complex emotions, and our authentic imperfections. When
we embrace who we are and decide to be authentic, instead of perfect, we open ourselves up to real relationships, real
happiness, and real success. Thus, happy couples accept each other just the way they are. There is no need to put on a mask. There is no need to pretend to be someone you’re not. You are more than enough just by being YOU.

5. “Forgiveness isn’t necessary.”

Whoever said revenge is sweet never tasted the sweetness of forgiveness.
Love is living your own life, but sharing it. And this requires constant forgiveness. It’s making a million mistakes and turning them into learning experiences. Love is patience, optimism, and sometimes it’s a simple hug when there is nothing left to say.
But remember, forgiveness isn’t just for your current happy relationships. You have to forgive your past failed relationships too. Yes, that’s right, you have to forgive them. You don’t have to like them, you don’t have to be friends with them, you don’t have to spend time with them ever again, but you have to forgive – to let go, to let it rest, to
let bygones be bygones. By not forgiving you are forcing yourself to carry bricks from your past relationship failures
forward with you into all your present and future relationship interactions. And by doing this, you inevitably
build the same flawed relationship structures that fell apart before. 

6. “I don’t have time for them today.

If you neglect your relationship, your relationship will neglect you too. So realize that today will never come again. Be a blessing. Be a friend. Be there for the one who matters most. Make a difference. Take time to care. Tell your significant other how special they are. Do something that encourages a smile and a brighter day. By doing so, you will not only help them, you will help yourself too. Because when you seek to inspire happiness in someone close to you, you will not only find it, you will become it.

7. “They should change for me.”

The biggest mistake is believing there is only one right way to listen, to talk, to have a conversation, or to have a relationship.
The deepest craving of human nature is the need to be appreciated as is. Sometimes we try to be sculptors, constantly carving out of others the image of what we want them to be – what we think we need, love, or desire. But these actions and perceptions are against reality, against their benefit and ours, and always end in disappointment – because it does not fit them. The beginning of love is to let those we care about be perfectly themselves, and not to
distort them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves that we see in them.

8. “It’s just easier if I keep my feelings to myself right now.”

There is no day but today. Say what you need to say. Share your love openly and honestly with your other half, right
now. Realize that, no matter what, you’re going to lose important people in your life. No matter how much time you spend
with someone, or how much you appreciate them, sometimes it will never seem like you had enough time
together. So don’t learn this lesson the hard way. Express your love. Tell the one you love what you need to tell them.
Don’t shy away from important conversations because you feel awkward or uncomfortable. You never know when you might lose your opportunity for good. 

9. “All relationships can and should be fixed and maintained.”

It may sound harsh, but not every couple was meant to be a couple. And that’s OK. It’s always better to be alone with
dignity than in a relationship that constantly requires you to sacrifice your happiness and self-respect.
Although not all relationships are meant to be, there are no failed relationships, because every person in your life has a
lesson to teach. Sometimes you simply outgrow people . Sometimes you just have to accept it and move on. Do what
you can, but don’t kill yourself trying to fix the unfixable. When someone leaves your life, it’s important to emotionally
release them. Know in your heart that it’s not an ending – it’s a new beginning. It just means that their part in your
story is over. Your story will go on…
Think about it. How many people don’t get the one they want, but end up with the one they’re supposed to be with?

Good relationships don’t just happen – they take time, patience and two people who truly want to work to be a part
of something bigger than themselves. Relationships like this are not just about sharing laughs when times are easy;
they’re about the commitment to fight through and overcome all the hard times together too. In the end, happy couples think clearly, collaborate willingly, and don’t let expectations and negativity get in the way of the bond they share.



Today's Quote: From Albert Einstein.

Great Quotes from Albert Einstein:

  • Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius -- and a lot of courage -- to move in the opposite direction."

  • "Imagination is more important than knowledge."

  • "Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love."

  • "I want to know God's thoughts; the rest are details."

  • "The hardest thing in the world to understand is the income tax."

  • "Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one."

  • "The only real valuable thing is intuition."

  • "A person starts to live when he can live outside himself."

  • "I am convinced that He (God) does not play dice."

  • "God is subtle but he is not malicious."

  • "Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character."

  • "I never think of the future. It comes soon enough."

  • "The eternal mystery of the world is its comprehensibility."

  • "Sometimes one pays most for the things one gets for nothing."

  • "Science without religion is lame. Religion without science is blind."

  • "Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new."

  • "Great spirits have often encountered violent opposition from weak minds."

  • "Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler."

  • "Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen."



The Eight Deadly Sins of a Relationship

Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.” - Emily Kimbrough

But just as important as what you should do is what you shouldn’t do — and I’m sure many of you have stepped into these pitfalls yourselves. I know I have. I’ve learned from my mistakes, and have learned to recognize when I’m making a fatal error, and how to correct it.

If you can avoid these, you should have a strong relationship. I’m not going to guarantee anything, but I’d give you good odds. :)

1. Resentment. This is a poison that starts as something small (“He didn’t get a new roll of toilet paper” or “She doesn’t wash her dishes after she eats”) and builds up into something big. Resentment is dangerous because it often flies under our radar, so that we don’t even notice we have the resentment, and our partner doesn’t realize that there’s anything wrong. If you ever notice yourself having resentment, you need to address this immediately, before it gets worse. Cut it off while it’s small. There are two good ways to deal with resentment: 1) breathe, and just let it go — accept your partner for who she/he is, faults and all; none of us is perfect; or 2) talk to your partner about it if you cannot accept it, and try to come up with a solution that works for both of you (not just for you); try to talk to them in a non-confrontational way, but in a way that expresses how you feel without being accusatory.

2. Jealousy. It’s hard to control jealousy if you feel it, I know. It seems to happen by itself, out of our control, unbidden and unwanted. However, jealousy, like resentment, is relationship poison. A little jealousy is fine, but when it gets to a certain level it turns into a need to control your partner, and turns into unnecessary fights, and makes both parties unhappy. If you have problems with jealousy (like I once did), instead of trying to control them it’s important that you examine and deal with the root issue, which is usually insecurity. That insecurity might be tied to your childhood (abandonment by a parent, for example), in a past relationship where you got hurt, or in an incident or incidents in the past of your current relationship.

3. Unrealistic expectations. Often we have an idea of what our partner should be like. We might expect them to clean up after themselves, to be considerate, to always think of us first, to surprise us, to support us, to always have a smile, to work hard and not be lazy. Not necessarily these expectations, but almost always we have expectations of our partner. Having some expectations is fine — we should expect our partner to be faithful, for example. But sometimes, without realizing it ourselves, we have expectations that are too high to meet. Our partner isn’t perfect — no one is. We can’t expect them to be cheerful and loving every minute of the day — everyone has their moods. We can’t expect them to always think of us, as they will obviously think of themselves or others sometimes too. We can’t expect them to be exactly as we are, as everyone is different. High expectations lead to disappointment and frustration, especially if we do not communicate these expectations. How can we expect our partner to meet these expectations if they don’t know about them? The remedy is to lower your expectations — allow your partner to be himself/herself, and accept and love them for that. What basic expectations we do have, we must communicate clearly.

4. Not making time. This is a problem with couples who have kids, but also with other couples who get caught up in work or hobbies or friends and family or other passions. Couples who don’t spend time alone together will drift apart. And while spending time together when you’re with the kids or other friends and family is a good thing, it’s important that you have time alone together. Can’t find time with all the things you have going on — work and kids and all the other stuff? Make time. Seriously — make the time. It can be done. I do it. Get a babysitter, drop a couple commitments, put off work for a day, and go on a date. It doesn’t have to be an expensive date — some time in nature, or exercising together, or watching a DVD and having a home-cooked dinner, are all good options. And when you’re together, make an effort to connect, not just be together.

5. Lack of communication. This sin affects all the others on this list — it’s been said many times before, but it’s true: good communication is the cornerstone of a good relationship. If you have resentment, you must talk it out rather than let the resentment grow. If you are jealous, you must communicate in an open and honest manner to address your insecurities. If you have expectations of your partner, you must communicate them. If there are any problems whatsoever, you must communicate them and work them out. Communication doesn’t just mean talking or arguing — good communication is honest without being attacking or blaming. Communicate your feelings — being hurt, frustrated, sorry, scared, sad, happy — rather than criticizing. Communicate a desire to work out a solution that works for you both, a compromise, rather than a need for the other person to change. And communicate more than just problems — communicate the good things too (see below for more).

6. Not showing gratitude. Sometimes there are no real problems in a relationship, such as resentment or jealousy or unrealistic expectations — but there is also no expression of the good things about your partner either. This lack of gratitude and appreciation is just as bad as the problems, because without it your partner will feel like he or she is being taken for granted. Every person wants to be appreciated for all they do. And while you might have some problems with what your partner does (see above), you should also realize that your partner does good things too. Does she wash your dishes or cook you something you like? Does he clean up after you or support you in your job? Take the time to say thank you, and give a hug and kiss. This little expression can go a long way.

7. Lack of affection. Similarly, everything else can be going right, including the expression of gratitude, but if there is no affection among partners then there is serious trouble. In effect, the relationship is drifting towards a platonic status. That might be better than many relationships that have serious problems, but it’s not a good thing. Affection is important –everyone needs some of it, especially from someone we love. Take the time, every single day, to give affection to your partner. Greet her when she comes home from work with a tight hug.  . Smile at her often.

8. Bonus sin: Stubbornness. This wasn’t on my original list but I just thought about it before publishing this post, and had to add it in. Every relationship will have problems and arguments — but it’s important that you learn to work out these problems after cooling down a bit. Unfortunately, many of us are too stubborn to even talk about things. Perhaps we always want to be right. Perhaps we never want to admit that we made a mistake. Perhaps we don’t like to say we’re sorry. Perhaps we don’t like to compromise. I’ve done all of these things — but I’ve learned over the years that this is just childish. When I find myself being stubborn these days, I try to get over this childishness and suck it up and put away my ego and say I’m sorry. Talk about the problem and work it out. Don’t be afraid to be the first one to apologize. Then move past it to better things.
“I felt it shelter to speak to you.” - Emily Dickinson


Inspiration: Be Brave!

Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference. Don’t allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It’s there for your convenience, not the callers. Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb. That’s where the fruit is. Don’t burn bridges. You’ll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river. Don’t forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated. Don’t major in minor things. Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresa, Helen Keller, Leonardo Da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein. Don’t spread yourself too thin. Learn to say no politely and quickly. Don’t use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved. Don’t waste time grieving over past mistakes Learn from them and move on. Every person needs to have their moment in the sun, when they raise their arms in victory, knowing that on this day, at his hour, they were at their very best. Get your priorities straight. No one ever said on his death bed., ‘Gee, if I’d only spent more time at the office’. Give people a second chance, but not a third. Judge your success by the degree that you’re enjoying peace, health and love. Learn to listen. Opportunity sometimes knocks very softly. Leave everything a little better than you found it. Live your life as an exclamation, not an explanation. Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life and death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems. Never cut what can be untied. Never overestimate your power to change others. Never underestimate your power to change yourself. Remember that overnight success usually takes about fifteen years. Remember that winners do what losers don’t want to do. Seek opportunity, not security. A boat in harbor is safe, but in time its bottom will rot out. Spend less time worrying who’s right, more time deciding what’s right. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life. Success is getting what you want. Happiness is liking what you get. The importance of winning is not what we get from it, but what we become because of it. When facing a difficult task, act as though it’s impossible to fail.”

— Jackson Brown Jr.



History's Forgotten Images.

If you are like me who loves going back in time' out of curiosity,  you will be amazed with these wonderful images;

 Bonne and Clyde's car during the shootout that ended the two outlaws. The gunfire barrage was so loud that members of the posse experienced temporary deafness.

 Civil war veteran Samuel Deckter poses with the prosthetic arms he made for himself. .... somehow.

 Inmate at Attica play chess.

 American soldiers hunker down in a trench less than a mile of the detonation of a 43 kiloton Nuclear bomb. 1953.

 Mark Twain smokes a cigarette.  1905.

LAPD police officers going undercover in 1960 to catch purse snatchers.

 Children in iron lungs before the advent of polio vaccine in 1937.

 Cintinatti's cavernous main libery, demolished in 1955.

 Lewis Powell a co-conspirator in the assassination of Abraham Lincoln.  He was hanged in 1865.

 The road leading to Woodstock in 1969.

 Sitting bull and Buffalo bill posse together in 1885.

 An Alabama school house in 1935.

 A lull in the fighting during the civil war. 

 Prohibition begins and Alcohol is poured down the drain in 1921.

 12th street in Miami in Florida 1908.

 A car crash in Washington DC in 1921

 The Rivoli theatre in 1975.

 Civil war veteran and survivor of gettysburg shake hands in 1913.

 Michigan logger in 1890.

 A mountain of bison skulls ready to be ground into fertiliser in the 1870's

 Abraham Lincoln inspects the battlefield in 1862.

 The first ambulance: Bellevue hospital center.  NY. 1869.

 The old ponny Express and the Future of Mali delivery. 

 A group of school children visits a bison  in 1899.

 John F. And Bobby Kennedy in 1960.

 Waiting in the line following the Louisville flood of 1937.

 An American field hospital of a bomb out remains of a French church in 1918

 Eisonhower and patton examine a trove of artifacts that the Germans hid in a salt mine in 1945.

 Albert Einstein visits the grand canyon in 1922.

The first known sports team photos ever taken , the 1858 knickerboker Baseball Club. Hoboken, New Jersey. 



7 Awkward Things You do when You Have a Crush

...You probably had or currently have a certain someone who you have ambiguous feelings for but won’t ever let him or her know about them, so instead you start doing things you do when you have a crush on someone, no matter how silly and irrational they may be. Don’t worry, we have all done it, but are just not willing to admit to it. I guess the infatuation just gets to us and we all end up doing the exact same things you do when you have a crush. 

1. Overanalyze Their Actions: 

You can’t really control the things you do when you have a crush on someone and sometimes it can drive us all insane. For example, the second you begin liking someone, you automatically start to read too much into their actions. You attempt to read their body language and search for any hidden messages whenever you have a conversation. And in the end you just give up, because with men you can never be too sure.

2. Act Different around Them:  

As much as you try to keep your cool when you are around them, your heart beats faster when they are close to you and sometimes all of the thinking in your head makes you act awkward. Plus, aside from that, you become more aware of your posture and overall appearance, so being around your crush is a lot of hard work.

3. Regularly Visit Their Social Media:

Once you express interest in someone, you become a master at stalking his or her social media. "Hey, I must admit its pretty weird when someone calls you a stalker." You try to get to know more about them as much as you can, so you go through their pictures and see your mutual friends. It’s a little creepy but mmmh, everyone does it!

4. Express Interest in People He Talks to:

Ever notice how the second you admit to liking that person, you analyze everyone he or she talks to? I mean, you can actually learn a lot about a person from his of her friends, especially their best friends! However, once your crush engages in a conversation with the opposite sex, that’s when you begin to feel a little uncomfortable.

5. Overanalyze Your Own Actions:

Aside from overanalyzing your crush’s actions, it is very typical to overanalyze your own. You want to reply in the proper manner that’s engaging and funny but a little flirty, and behave in a way that hints at something without coming on too strong, so it can get a little complicated. But just act like yourself and everything else will come easy!

6. Check out Their Interests:

If your crush tells you about his or her favorite show or band, it is natural to be curious about their interests. Plus if you want to spark a conversation, it is better to know what you are talking about. Maybe this is why we always do our homework and often engage in the same interests as our love interests.

7. Constantly Check Your Phone:

When you are texting your crush, you constantly check your phone even if it doesn’t buzz. When you finally receive a text, you agonize over every word, emoji and punctuation mark. And when conversation comes to an end, you scroll back and re-read it all over again! But who am I kidding, ' i do that too '- who doesn’t do that?

 At the early stages of liking someone, you end up doing some really awkward and weird things. But in some really abnormal way, this is actually normal! What do you catch yourself doing when you have a crush on someone?