Dominant or Passive partner?

  "It might sound cliché but opposites attract."
you might want to believe a passive partner attracts a dominant partner.   Its rare to see a dominant person attract another dominant.  Dominant partners are partners who try to have a sort of hold on everything , be it conversations or anything that involves two people. They simply need someone to accommodate their ego. usually, they are never at a loss for words, often leaving the other partner  overwhelmed, and giving them more power over their partner.  This Could easily lead to an unbalanced relationship.

The passive partner, on the other hand would rather prefer to be left alone for the usually have little to say, and might just move along. But soon enough they realise that they are gradually losing a say in the relationship.

Usually these traits may remain undercover at the beginning of the relationship. No one wants to be seen with a  bad behaviour then. As they progress to a deeper level where they feel more open 'then this traits become unhidden.

It might seem like the perfect relationship  only when both look for an un compromised way to address the issue, but if let out of control the relationship could lead to a break. This is particularly difficult to maneuver for most couples.

In my relationships,  i was always the passive one. I practically had to push myself to say a reasonable amount of words in a conversation.  Most times when i tried to assert myself i came off as aggressive. My partner would always misinterpret my efforts as 'me trying to put up a fight'.  I was always looking for the right words to say and always feeling like i was drowning.  It just wasnt a natural part of my personality.

 Usually you would discover the controlling partner tends to make much demands on their partner , having much to say and feeling like they have the right to tell others how to act or respond to situations. My dominant partner would aways respond to me with  conditions to fulfil not knowing that he can have all the things he wants in life without placing conditions. This totally goes against the essence of a relationship. In asmuch as i try to please my partner ' it is his responsibility aswell.

The dominant partner might say things like: "if you dont respond to me with a full sentence then i wouldn't respond to you".

 To co-exist, we need to learn to find the balance, encourage each other to speak their minds without criticism or judgement, support each other's growth, and develop a new kind of listening. There is the listening we do with our ears, but there is another kind that takes more work. It is more intuitive in nature, and involves reading body language, tone of voice, or lack of voice. It is the kind of listening that involves the heart. It takes empathy and keen attention. It is this level of communication that can make or break a relationship.

As relationships progresses' it is very important to accept your partner as they are, and realise everyone has flaws. Flaws  makes each one beautiful in different ways. A dominant partner can help the passive partner find their voice with fair listening, and acknowledgement. Remembering to keep an open mind during communication.  Where no one feels unheard or has more right to be heard.

What do you think?

By: Uju Morah

Older Men and Nine Lives

Do older men have nine lives?
 Is there a myth to it. I have been pondering on this lately.

 Older men are said to live a longer life if the have  intimate relationships with younger women, funny huh?.
This is becoming quite alarming because of the increasing rate it has become the norm. It is said that 2 in 5 cases are bound to occur at every point.

These men are not to be blamed entirely because it is the younger women who equally make themselves available and vulnerable to them,  so long as these older men are ready to provide for them and foot their bills.

Though it's not all women who found themselves having an affair with older men intended it to happen. Most of the women who have this experience were not aware of the mans' marital status due to the lies fed to her,  or were she was made to believe the man was at the verge of having a divorce,  being seperated , which of course are all lies.
In this case the younger woman believes she will eventually become the mans real lover or wife, not knowing she is at a loss of becoming the Other Woman or The side Chick.

To be a responsible older man you need to practice self control.  Be an example to the younger generation. Most of these older men have a wife and kids. Don't think that what you do now won't affect your kids later in life.

Who said you can’t achieve a healthier life doing the right thing.
 A healthy life can be achieved through having a good dieting plan , having a regular exercising routine, and of course by meditation. Practicing this healthy lifestyle can  greatly improve your lifespan, and thereby giving you the life you desire.

To the young ladies , respect your body, have some dignity.Who said you can't survive without a suger daddy or what have you. I know it's hard out there, and the hustle is real. There is nothing you set yourself out there to do that you cannot achieve. Find yourself a decent job, it doesn’t matter how small it is, trust me it pay at the end. Don't be a piece of meat to these older men who only need your body out of greed, and to fulfil their vain desires.

This is a common mistake made by so many people, It's never too late to quit. Remember that someday,  soon enough you would get past that stage of your life, and you would become a wife, you wouldn't want to have your hubby hitting on the chicks out there.
Retrace your ways, before Karma reconsiders you.

By: Uju Morah

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How Does Your Inner Fears And Insecurities Affect You?

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

Fear has its way of paralyzing you. Most of the things we fear for never gets to happen. It only exist in our head. It's your own inner fears, and insecurities that are creating this illusion.

I was consumed with fear, I couldn't find myself. Being the confident type  it was so unusual of me. I was always active, and at the top of every activity.
I couldn't keep up with all the negative thoughts going through my head.
Applying for a job was what  stirred-up my fear. Having been called for an interview, and I couldn't confront it. All the self help books on preparing for an interview, didn't seem to help.
What if on getting there I was asked a difficult question?, what if I couldn't answer these questions?, what if my answers were not impressive enough?, what if I was rejected at the end?
I constantly had to ask myself.

 As each day came closer to my interview date i grew worse. I sort for support from friends and family, though they were very supportive, they all pushed me forward with lots of encouragement.
I remember going home after all the 'go go girl' from friends, and feeling all fully prepared, only for me to wake up the next day feeling terrified, and wishing to call the recruitment department to cancel.

 Those were my bad days.
I must say there are days in my live i refer to as the bad days. These are days when i don't  feel strong enough to face the world. Days when i woke up with nothing to look forward to, and i know so many people experience these bad days as well because this is a universal experience.
In my typical mornings; I wake up, exercise, go through my online social feeds, and make myself a home made lime tea.
But on my bad days 'i just laid in bed for hours, and not looking forward to doing any of these things. I feel gloomy on these days.

I struggled to push these negative feelings away.
As humans it doesn't mean we shouldn't have our fears, most courageous people who have achieved great things in their live would confess to having experienced fear at several points in their lives.

Dealing with fear doesn't mean you should totally eliminate it from your life, but acknowledging it, having the grace to move on with your daily activities, and not letting it affect you.

Realizing that this was just me judging myself- was the first step i needed to take.
I replaced my negative fears with the positive ones.

My thoughts now became- what if i performed impressively?

Also, realizing that the interviewer is equally a normal human who has fears too is a great way to fight fear,  the interviewer might be tensed up as well, and having  difficulties in asking questions.

Truth is; most times we spend our energy thinking of how others might perceive us, or what their thoughts are about us, but they fact is that- they too are consumed with thoughts of themselves.
Be aware that fear is a just feeling, not a fact.

So what i do is whenever i find myself in a difficult situation that i can't handle: I just relax, and let things happen as it is - simple.
Other times using positive experience from the past to deal with your fear is also a way of helping yourself.
Mine was an instance were i went for an audition, and i felt scared i was going to forget some parts on my script despite preparing so well for it, but ended up doing exceptionally well, even better than what i expected. This instance gives me the courage to move forward, not letting my fear overwhelm me.

Look for a past experiences were you expected the worst to happen but everything turned out perfectly well, then relate it with your current situation.
Having all this knowledge handy, i was finally able to gain the courage to go through with the interview.
Need i tell you the interview turned out great.
The best way to gain strength, and self confidence is to do what you're afraid to do.

By : Uju Morah


Apprecate That Special Someone

LOVE is appreciating and being thankful everyday for the person you have, and treating them with care and thoughtfulness. Love is not waiting until you lose that person to know this.
Love is remembering the power of those three words, I love you, I love you, I love you.
Love is making decisions for “we”. It’s having the forethought and consideration to know that anything that is going on with you, any problem, any success – is also happening to your partner.
Love is nourishing your body and making your health a priority. Because when you’re sick, it’s the people around you that suffer the most. Because you want to be able to maximize your time on earth being a partner, a parent and a friend.
Love is being the best person you can be, every day. It is waking up and making the choice to act with integrity, honesty,.loyalty, and commitment.
It is choosing to act with love over fear, even when you are in pain.It is acting with dignity and grace regardless of how angry or upset you may be.
Love is forgiving.
Love is wanting the best for your partner, even if that sometimes means to let them go…
Love is commitment. Love is a verb, not a noun.
Love is not fleeting; it does not come and go with the feelings and emotions of the day.
Love is not dictated by lust.

What Does Love Mean to You?.


Who Is Your Date?

A girl is attracted to boys. A woman is attracted to men. 

Now, this has nothing to do with the actual age of a person. I’m referring to maturity, life vision and stage of life. In fact, some people regardless of their age, will never really grow up. You can switch the genders in this post and most points would likely still apply. 
If you are a girl (lack independence, are ruled by insecurity, lack self-respect, throw tantrums, have princess syndrome, don’t have strong values or boundaries and can’t hold yourself on your own) then expect that you will attract only boys. However, if you are a woman (independent, ambitious, knows your worth and value, has a strong moral compass, is considerate and an able communicator and doesn’t let insecurity dominate your psyche), then you should be dating a man. And if you can’t spot the difference just yet, here are some pointers.
  1. A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really. He doesn’t think too much about it, and even if he does, doesn’t exert much effort to get it. A boy is passive, a man is assertive.
  2. A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life) or another purpose or passion.  A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he’s going to hit up on the weekend.
  3. A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.
  4. A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you’re lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.
  5. A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest with his intentions and lets people know where they stand. A boy avoids. He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama or excuses to mask the fact he’s not that into you or a relationship.
  6. A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A boy is always “testing” – he doesn’t fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is in.
  7. A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but is often busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is getting crunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.
  8. A man takes the time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.
  9. A man has integrity. He means what he says, and says what he means. He has follow through and actions his promises. And if he can’t he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn’t follow through.
  10. A man is afraid of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of rejection and acts passive so that his pride and ego won’t ever get too banged up.
Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a man, or a mere boy. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:
11. A boy plays games. A man doesn’t.



Is The Past Important?

Very often when we embark on a new relationship, our curiosity is at its highest. We want to know what our new found love did in the past? Was he a womanizer? Was she sleeping with more than one guy at the same time? Does she have a history of breaking hearts? Was he the type to have sex with a lady and never call her back?
It is understandable that we should be very protective of ourselves when going into relationships and sometimes,
this kind of information can provide us with a basic knowledge of the kind of person we are falling in love with.
But what happens when we just can't let go of what we have discovered? Over the weekend, I decided to go on a movie marathon at the cinemas. I failed because I ended up only watching two movies but the second movie "Think
Like a Man Too" got me thinking. I'd avoided seeing this movie for the longest time because I expected it was just
another bout of mindless comedy that provided poor insight into relationships and made it seem like everything could
just work out after a kiss. One of the couples got me thinking when they arrived in Las Vegas for a party
weekend and the lady started to discover that her partner had embarked on more sexual escapades than he cared to
admit to before he met her. She held on to this the entire weekend, angry, filled with despair and above all unsure of
whether she wanted to go on with the relationship.
Many relationships suffer the same blow; the guy who seems like the only angel on the surface of the earth turns
out to be the biggest womanizer amongst his friends and the lady you believe is the most amazing person on earth has skeletons in her closet. Don't despair; sometimes the past is not a reflection of the true individual. I once read a
quote somewhere that said "A person's past may be true but it is also outdated information". People grow everyday,
and change their lifestyle as they grow older. The important question to ask yourself is "does my partner still fit the bill of this past image?" If the answer is no, move on! Now I know many women will fail when it comes to this question
because over-analysis is our specialty. Try your best to be as objective as possible, and try to focus on what your
partner is doing NOW. Now is what matters most. We all make terrible decisions at some point, and we've all had a little mischief in our past. However, what we are doing now is what really counts.
It is a good thing to know your partner's past, but be willing to see beyond it. Don't let images from the past cloud your
judgement in the present.

By Demi:



14 Things to Appreciate Today

So that’s what I want to reflect on today – quick reminders about the things life is just too short not to appreciate…

1. A peaceful, mindful present.

 – The best way to prepare for the future is to take care of the present. Goodbyes will always hurt a little. Photographs can never replace the act of being there. Memories, good and bad, will sometimes
bring tears. And words can never perfectly describe the feelings they represent. But that’s OK. Pain is real. But so is hope. You have to make peace with your past in order to keep your present and future from becoming hopeless battles.

2. The good in everything. – 

The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.
Train your mind to see the good in everything. Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the breeze through the trees, the small child learning to walk, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the sun on your skin. Live your life to the
fullest potential, and fight for the beauty of each precious moment.

3. Life’s surprises. – 

Notice and cherish life’s surprises. Just
because it’s not what you were expecting, doesn’t mean it’s not everything you’ve been waiting for. So take a deep breath when you’re rejected from something good. It often means you’re being redirected to something better. Be patient. Be positive. 

4. The challenges that strengthen you.

 Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in life. If we were to go through
our life without any obstacles, we would be crippled. We would not be as strong as what we could have been otherwise. So give every opportunity a chance – leave no room for regrets. It takes courage to change and grow and become who you really are. Your struggle is part of your story. And it’s a story worth writing.

5. Being YOU.

 You’re an original, an individual, a
masterpiece. Celebrate it! Don’t let your uniqueness make you shy. Don’t be someone other than the wonder you are.
Everyone has their own dreams, their own struggles, and a different path that makes sense for them. You are YOU for a
reason. Own it.

6. The gifts that are only yours.

 Even when the competition seems fierce, realize that you are only ever competing
against yourself. When you catch yourself comparing yourself to a colleague, neighbor, friend, or famous
personality, stop! There’s no need. You are different, with different strengths – strengths these other people don’t
possess. Take a moment to reflect on all the astounding abilities you have and to be grateful for the gifts that are only yours.

7. Ideas and activities that excite you. –

 Never give up on something that you can’t go a day without thinking about.
When you truly believe in what you’re doing, it shows, and it pays. Success in life is for those who are excited about
where they’re going. So find something that you love – something that gets you so excited you can’t wait to get out
of bed in the morning. That’s what life is all about. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to live a life you are excited about . Don’t let anyone or anything make you forget that.

8. The simple things.

 It’s the simple things in life that are the
most extraordinary. I believe this to be true and have experienced this with my own family. When I think of the
times where we laughed the most or had the most fun, it was when we were doing simple, everyday things like swimming in a pool, taking a long walk, combing a beach for shells, playing a board game, or sharing a delicious meal.

9. The excitement and freedom of vulnerability. – 

Being vulnerable is helpful to both ourselves and others. It makes us bigger in the world – the more open we are, the more there is of us out there. So open up. Allow yourself to feel, to be real and authentic. Tear down any emotional brick walls you have built around yourself and feel every exquisite
emotion, both good and bad. This is life. This is how you welcome new opportunities.

10. Inner beauty. – 

As if you were on fire from within, your
magnificence lives in the lining of your skin. In other words, beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart and
soul. Everything will line up perfectly when knowing and living the truth of who you are on the inside becomes more
important than looking good on the outside. 

11. Giving without expecting anything in return. – 

As a child, I always thought the expression, “It’s better to give than to
receive” was trite and silly. As an adult, I recognize the expression’s value. Having the capacity to give means you possess a mindset of abundance. Having the will to give means you want to make a difference in the world. Having the desire to give means you care. And nothing is more powerful than that.

12. The feeling of doing the right thing. – 

There is plenty of good in this world and it’s worth paying attention to and fighting for. So always seek and do what is right, not what is easy. BE the change you want to see.

13. The act of loving. –

 Love is a lifestyle. Let love win. Love
fearlessly and without limits. No act of love or kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. Love never loses in the
long run. Where you invest your love, you invest your life.

14. Everyone around you for being who they are. – 

If you judge people, you have no time to love them. So pay close attention, and respect people for who they are and not for who you want them to be. Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves, whether you choose
to be a part of their life or not.

By marc


Short Story: "Anger"

"It is natural for the immature to harm others. Getting angry with them is like resenting a fire for burning." -Shantideva

Once upon a time there was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he should hammer a nail in the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. But gradually, the number of daily nails dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the first day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He proudly told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. "You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out, it won't matter how many times you say 'I'm sorry', the wound is still there."

Ask yourself if this situation is actually important enough to spoil your own and other people's mood. Is this problem worth getting upset in a life where death can hit me at any moment?

meditation can be the ultimate cure to completely eliminating anger from your mind. In the beginning, one can do analytical meditations (like this meditation on anger), but also meditation on compassion, love and forgiving reduce anger as well. Ultimately, the realization of emptiness eradicates all delusions like anger.



Today's Quote: From Albert Einstein.

Great Quotes from Albert Einstein:

  • Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius -- and a lot of courage -- to move in the opposite direction."

  • "Imagination is more important than knowledge."

  • "Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love."

  • "I want to know God's thoughts; the rest are details."

  • "The hardest thing in the world to understand is the income tax."

  • "Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one."

  • "The only real valuable thing is intuition."

  • "A person starts to live when he can live outside himself."

  • "I am convinced that He (God) does not play dice."

  • "God is subtle but he is not malicious."

  • "Weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character."

  • "I never think of the future. It comes soon enough."

  • "The eternal mystery of the world is its comprehensibility."

  • "Sometimes one pays most for the things one gets for nothing."

  • "Science without religion is lame. Religion without science is blind."

  • "Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new."

  • "Great spirits have often encountered violent opposition from weak minds."

  • "Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler."

  • "Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen."



Inspiration: Be Brave!

Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference. Don’t allow the phone to interrupt important moments. It’s there for your convenience, not the callers. Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb. That’s where the fruit is. Don’t burn bridges. You’ll be surprised how many times you have to cross the same river. Don’t forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated. Don’t major in minor things. Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresa, Helen Keller, Leonardo Da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein. Don’t spread yourself too thin. Learn to say no politely and quickly. Don’t use time or words carelessly. Neither can be retrieved. Don’t waste time grieving over past mistakes Learn from them and move on. Every person needs to have their moment in the sun, when they raise their arms in victory, knowing that on this day, at his hour, they were at their very best. Get your priorities straight. No one ever said on his death bed., ‘Gee, if I’d only spent more time at the office’. Give people a second chance, but not a third. Judge your success by the degree that you’re enjoying peace, health and love. Learn to listen. Opportunity sometimes knocks very softly. Leave everything a little better than you found it. Live your life as an exclamation, not an explanation. Loosen up. Relax. Except for rare life and death matters, nothing is as important as it first seems. Never cut what can be untied. Never overestimate your power to change others. Never underestimate your power to change yourself. Remember that overnight success usually takes about fifteen years. Remember that winners do what losers don’t want to do. Seek opportunity, not security. A boat in harbor is safe, but in time its bottom will rot out. Spend less time worrying who’s right, more time deciding what’s right. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life. Success is getting what you want. Happiness is liking what you get. The importance of winning is not what we get from it, but what we become because of it. When facing a difficult task, act as though it’s impossible to fail.”

— Jackson Brown Jr.



7 Awkward Things You do when You Have a Crush

...You probably had or currently have a certain someone who you have ambiguous feelings for but won’t ever let him or her know about them, so instead you start doing things you do when you have a crush on someone, no matter how silly and irrational they may be. Don’t worry, we have all done it, but are just not willing to admit to it. I guess the infatuation just gets to us and we all end up doing the exact same things you do when you have a crush. 

1. Overanalyze Their Actions: 

You can’t really control the things you do when you have a crush on someone and sometimes it can drive us all insane. For example, the second you begin liking someone, you automatically start to read too much into their actions. You attempt to read their body language and search for any hidden messages whenever you have a conversation. And in the end you just give up, because with men you can never be too sure.

2. Act Different around Them:  

As much as you try to keep your cool when you are around them, your heart beats faster when they are close to you and sometimes all of the thinking in your head makes you act awkward. Plus, aside from that, you become more aware of your posture and overall appearance, so being around your crush is a lot of hard work.

3. Regularly Visit Their Social Media:

Once you express interest in someone, you become a master at stalking his or her social media. "Hey, I must admit its pretty weird when someone calls you a stalker." You try to get to know more about them as much as you can, so you go through their pictures and see your mutual friends. It’s a little creepy but mmmh, everyone does it!

4. Express Interest in People He Talks to:

Ever notice how the second you admit to liking that person, you analyze everyone he or she talks to? I mean, you can actually learn a lot about a person from his of her friends, especially their best friends! However, once your crush engages in a conversation with the opposite sex, that’s when you begin to feel a little uncomfortable.

5. Overanalyze Your Own Actions:

Aside from overanalyzing your crush’s actions, it is very typical to overanalyze your own. You want to reply in the proper manner that’s engaging and funny but a little flirty, and behave in a way that hints at something without coming on too strong, so it can get a little complicated. But just act like yourself and everything else will come easy!

6. Check out Their Interests:

If your crush tells you about his or her favorite show or band, it is natural to be curious about their interests. Plus if you want to spark a conversation, it is better to know what you are talking about. Maybe this is why we always do our homework and often engage in the same interests as our love interests.

7. Constantly Check Your Phone:

When you are texting your crush, you constantly check your phone even if it doesn’t buzz. When you finally receive a text, you agonize over every word, emoji and punctuation mark. And when conversation comes to an end, you scroll back and re-read it all over again! But who am I kidding, ' i do that too '- who doesn’t do that?

 At the early stages of liking someone, you end up doing some really awkward and weird things. But in some really abnormal way, this is actually normal! What do you catch yourself doing when you have a crush on someone? 



10 Reasons To Let Go of The Past

Whether its a bad memory,  a grudge, a bad relationship or a broken heart that can't mend, there’s always a time to let go.

1. Holding onto anything takes effort and that effort subtly overshadows your life. Think of the negative things you are holding onto as a huge dark cloud constantly looming over you and blocking the sunlight. There is no room for anything positive or bright in your life so take a deep breath and blow that dark shadow away.

2. Ever wondered why you never really accomplish as much as you should? It’s because you are hoarding bad memories and experiences and you are letting your past dictate your future. You will never find what you are seeking if you do not have the strength to let go and look at the world through new eyes.

3. The negative things in your life serve only one purpose and that purpose is to be a tool for knowledge. If you don’t let go of the negative things, you can never learn from them because you will always be blinding by baseline emotions. Don’t hinder your growth by holding onto these things.

4. Forgiveness and acceptance will bring you peace. It will allow you to clean your slate and let you move on. If you hold onto a grudge you are digging your own grave and filling your life with violent energy. Letting go will give you that peace of mind to move forward.

5. If you don’t let go, you will never truly live in the present. And if you don’t exist in the present then you’re half-way living your life from memory to memory instead of opening your eyes and truly appreciating what’s around you. You’ll lose sight of opportunities, new loves and new memories.

6. If you let go, you can spend your energy on the things that you CAN change. Remember that famous saying? “Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” – This quote is the true example of what you need in your life. You need to let go of the things you cannot change in order to devote yourself to focusing on what is to come.

7. Both your inner and your outer beauty depend on your ability to let go. When you let go, it cleanses you inside and out. If you keep worrying about the things of the past, you put an unnecessary stress on your body. Stress is a precursor for a variety of health problems so take charge of your body and your life and just let go.

8. I know it’s clichéd but life isn’t waiting around the corner for everyone to forgive their mistakes, patch up old friendships or move on and make right by their past. Let go of anything you are harboring especially the slightest grudge or hatred towards someone else because it will save you from your grief or your guilt if you don’t.

9. Slavery is a thing of the past but by holding on to something, you are making yourself a slave and those insignificant things you refuse to let go of, are your master. Take responsibility of your life and rip those chains off. There is a sense of accomplishment when you make that conscious decision to be the master of your own life.

10. Let go if not for all of the above reasons then for the sole reason of being happy, truly happy. “The amount of happiness that you have depends on the amount of freedom you have in your heart.” Free your heart that clutter and in that freedom, you will find happiness. broken heart, there’s always a time to let go.